USA - Did you know "jazz hands" are slowly replacing clapping? No, really: Clapping has been banned at a leading university in the UK "to avoid triggering anxiety" for students. Lest you think this practice doesn't exist in the US, I can personally vouch that it does. When I spoke at Bard College in New York last year, the students there did this exact thing with their hands whenever one of their classmates would challenge me and they wanted to show their support. I couldn't figure out what was going on until about halfway through the talk when I just flat-out asked the students,"What on earth are you all doing?" (I had kind of figured it out by then, but I wanted to hear them explain it.)
Ironically, just after reading the UK article I got a text from a friend who said our local high school is doing away with class rank, valedictorian, and salutatorian. The message? It's just too stressful for kids to lose. They can't cope. This attempt to shield young people from anything uncomfortable is pure madness. We are setting kids up for a lifetime of pain.
The ability to cope with the myriad of changes and challenges that will occur throughout their lives, and the ability to form lasting bonds with people despite the inevitable conflict it brings, is crucial.
Who's modeling for kids how to cope with setbacks and adversity?
Who's educating them on strategies for how to make their way in the world?
No one.
That's who.